“Little Women”(2019) : Female Relationship, Secret Thoughts exploding

Just want to make sure that I am not faking anything..

I have faked too much…

That is what I was thinking when I reached to the point that I cannot stop crying while watching the film today at the theater.

But besides, no matter how faithful I have been to myself or not enough,
here is what this movie taught me,

women are great, and being a woman is amazing.

I should watch this film over and over again whenever I find any kind of misogyny towards myself. I am sure that then I can forget about it.

Though I was crying for almost the whole time in the latter half of the movie,
the first scene that made me cry was the scene where Jo stayed with Beth on the shore and read a story for her.
Then I realized that what I had been touched from the entire “something” of this movie besides the story line was that..

I miss women, I miss all my female friends and female friendship.

The beautiful soul of each of the sisters and their relationships, and the MOTHER played by Laura Dern…
It just truly made me realize how female relationship has been important to me.

As a 30 year old who got ‘married’ with a male partner (*Technically I am not ‘married’ though. We only have common-law marriage relationship to avoid changing surname) and is currently struggling in decision making for my career,
there are just too many things that hit me in this film and they were literally everything that I am worried of and I question in my daily life right now.

It is not easy to share my true feelings as being a woman with him,
I wonder if I have been really faithful to myself,
I wonder if I have been faking myself or faking something to him..
I sometimes truly believe I would be a different person if I get out of this home..

What if.. I chose the different option
What if I had an idea being partners with a woman
What if…

This film is such an ‘evil’ that pulls all of these secret thoughts of mine into tears.
Phew..!!

I am so glad that I went to see this one at the theater today.
I am sure that this would stay as one of the most important films for me and I will be inspired forever.
Thank you so so so much to all the creators for delivering this story to the world.

There are some natures too lofty to bend.

― Margaret “Marmee” March  (“Little Women” 2019 )

#movie #justwatched #映画 #感想 #Little Women #ストーリーオブマイライフ #わたしの若草物語 #女性 #姉妹 #女同士

Teach Girls ―優しい子でいることよりも―

全ての女の子たちへ

相手に優しくすることよりも、

自分自身の安全と安心を優先して大丈夫だよ　—

 

いつもいつも、
繰り返し繰り返し、伝えていかなければならないこと。

自分の気持ちが大事なんて、みんな分かってる。
でも、ふと相手を目の前にした時、自分がどうしたいかなど完璧に忘れてしまえるほど、
相手への優しさや我慢することを優先してしまえる能力を
身に着けてしまっている子供たちや大人がたくさんいる。

皆何も持たないで0歳で生まれてきたのに、
そんな能力を身に着けさせたのは、この社会の一体何で、誰なんだろう。

私たちはそれを”unlearn”する。
そして、長年染みついたものを一人で振り払うのは難しいから、
助けあう。
繰り返し繰り返し、伝え合っていく。

 

“Teach girls to prioritize feeling safe over being nice.”

 

#sexeducation　#性教育　#性的同意　#DV　#性暴力　#女子　#女性　#名言

“The Half of It” /『ハーフ・オブ・イット』(2020)

Let’s just save the words that Ellie Chu delivered right here.

 

Love isn’t patient and kind and humble.
Love is.. messy. And horrible and selfish and.. bold.
It’s not finding your perfect half.
It’s the trying, reaching, and failing.
Love is being willing to ruin your good painting for the chance at a great one.

—  Ellie Chu  ( “The Half of It” [2020] )

 

「愛とは
素敵な絵を自ら台無しすること。
もっと素晴らしい絵が描けると信じて。」

 

声の高くないアジア系の女の子がフィーチャーされた作品としても本当に価値があるし、
まさにEllieと同じ思春期の頃、哲学に興味を抱いたり、思考を言語化することの面白さを知って日々日記を書いたりしていた私としては、
Ellieという “言葉のdeliverer” が輝くこの作品に、とても勇気づけられます。

世界中に存在するEllieのような若者たちが、皆どうか幸せでありますように。

 

Here are also some great words from the actress Leah Lewis, who played her :

“Most people think a love story has an equation, and that’s usually boy meets girl, girl meets boy, or girl meets girl,”

“It’s a self-love story because these characters don’t really end up with each other, but at the very end, they end up with something. For me, that’s even more valuable than just finding your other half; it’s finding a part of yourself along the way. It is a love story, it’s just not a ‘romance’ story.”

— Leah Lewis ( “Teen Vogue,”  2020-05-01 )

 

There are so many ways to “love”.

 

Big respect to the writer, director of the story, Alice Wu.
Ellie’s story is now seen by millions of people, and so many people are feeling safe, because of your work that you tried to deliver your own story out to this world.

 

When I’m writing, I never think to myself,
“What will the audience think about this?”
The really interesting question is,
“What is the thing you’re dying to say through this character?”
Because you’re the only person who can write that thing.
So write that thing. Don’t write the thing that somebody else could write.

— Alice Wu  ( “Netflix Film Club,” 2020-05-07 )

 

 

 

#映画　#感想　#ブログ　#quotes　#セリフ　#名言　#ハーフ・オブ・イット　#物書き　#philosophy　#アート　#Art　#Asiangirl　#移民　#immigrants　#LGBTQ+　#selflove　#Netflix　#ネットフリックス

“Before Sunset” (2004)

At the age of 28, watched this movie, and died.

Watched the first one “Before Sunrise”(1995) last year at home,
and now “Sunset” in Vancouver.
I couldn’t help opening the bottle of Fireball and started drinking.

I’m already scared to watch the third one.

Life…

『NOT FOUND』(Mr.Children)

『NOT FOUND』のbrilliantなライブ映像がYou Tubeに落ちてて、最近教えてもらったので、ここにも置いとく。

私の中でミスチル不動のNo.1を走り続け、未だに色あせないこの一曲。
他にもいっっぱい好きな曲あります。でも、この歌が一番。

一人一人の心や人格がもし常に一貫性のあるものだとしたら、
人付き合いなんて全部 相性診断で片付いてしまうんですかね。
Aさんは、こういう人。
Bさんは、こういう人。
2人の相性は抜群だから、きっといいパートナーになるよ、みたいな感じで。

でも現実はそうではなくて。
人は他者と意思伝達をする中で互いに影響を与え合い常に変化し続けるもの。

「自分」という枠組みから離れたものに出会った時、
それを受け入れなければならない時、
自らの枠組みを更新するのは、痛みが伴うことでもある。
受け入れることで自分は変わってしまう。

そしていつの間にか変わっていくことのできてしまった自分に対してさえ、混乱する。
散々悩んで答えを出して、
昨日ようやく「わかった！もうだいじょうぶ！」と思ったはずなのに、
今日はまた見つからなかったりする。

異なる人間が触れ合う限り、この作業は延々と続くんだと思う。
どれだけ仲の良い２人でも、おそらく、死ぬまでずっと。

大阪で出会った留学生にもJ-POP、J-ROCK好きな子が結構いて、話ししたりカラオケ行って盛り上がったりしたけど、
もし日本語が好きならぜひミスチルも聴いて欲しいなぁ。:)

#J-Pop #J-Rock #Mr.Children #ミスチル #NotFound　#歌詞解釈

CONSENT, it’s simple as tea (日本語ver.)

This video, created in 2015 by Thames Valley Police UK, has been subtitled in Japanese and over 100,000 retweeted in Japanese Twitter community.

A journalist, one of the closest to the PM of Japan, has been accused of rape which happened two years ago. And apparently he wasn’t arrested for some reason even though he was almost about to be arrested.  This news has got highly focused on internet in Japan since last week.

“High-profile journalist with close Abe ties accused of rape” ［The Japan Times / May 30, 2017］

“レイプ告白「あの夜、なにがあったのか」詩織さんと山口氏 それぞれに聞いた” ［Buzz Feed News / Jun 1, 2017］（おそらく現状日本語で最も詳しい記事です）

It’s so awful that this affair would’ve been forgotten in the society unless this woman, the victim, had courageously appeared in front of cameras and accused him with her own voice.

Watching people’s reactions to this accusation, one Twitter user @__for_good__ translated this video in Japanese and released it on her/his own account.

耳を疑うようなセックスの同意の解釈が飛び交っているので、イギリスの警察署が2015年に公開した 性行為においての同意を紅茶に例えた動画 (にふわっと訳をつけたもの)を置いておきます☕️

人と人の関係において性行為以外のあらゆるものに通じるのかなと。小学校高学年でも見れるね pic.twitter.com/wXl29S7uIO

— 🕊 (@forgood_movie) May 30, 2017

While I’ve been disgusted with too many things happening unfairly under the current administration,  I’m happy that this kind of “illuminating” and “educational” video has got to be widely spread among people in Japan.

I would say, as a heavy Twitter user in Japanese language, getting 100,000 retweets is not easy for a Tweet which mention something about politics or education. Usually such tweets are shared just among a small part of people, who regularly discuss this kind of topics on internet.

However, as the result shows, what this video tells us hasn’t be regarded as something should be discussed among few academic people, but something generally important and understandable.

The tricks contained in this video mean a lot.  It doesn’t look like a typical “illuminating” stuff, it is so simple as only a figure of stick man appears, it never mention which person is man or woman…

All of these factors would have worked really well to many people.  Finally this video easily brings us to think about rape which happens in a case that a victim is unconscious because of alcohol, sick or drug.

And actually I do want to praise the person who created this Japanese subtitled version.  Simply I think, he/she did brilliant translation.

My favorite part is,「紅茶は要らない　ただそれだけのことです」translated from, “They just don’t want tea. Okay? ”

What she/he’s done means a lot to many people, including me.  ：）

《References》
・刑法の一部を改正する法律案（the bill which amends the part of the criminal law）

・旧刑法176条ほか（the former version of the criminal law in Japan）

・性犯罪、刑法改正でも抜け穴「強い暴行・脅迫がない性被害は野放し状態」（弁護士ドットコムNEWS）

#SexEducation #Consent #Rape #Japan #性教育 #セックスの同意 #メディア